My orientation is queer, full stop, so talk to me if you like me. Show more
The label for my gender identity is still trans nonbinary. Meanwhile, I'm updating the label for my orientation to just one word only: queer.
Queer means: I'm not splitting hairs about futures I can't see. Labeling my orientation too specifically, for me, is like saying I already know more than I do about what sort of people I will love.
Queer means: I'm not trying to fit into any hair-splitting orientation labels that just affirm a gender binary system that has no clear place for enbies like me.
Queer means: solidarity with the rainbow, including the ace and aro spectrum.
Queer means: if you like me, talk to me. Maybe I'll like you, too.
Head's up, Value Village has their 99 cent t-shirt sale today (though I'm not sure if the sale is held on the same date at all locations?). They save their best shirts to put out for this sale, too. I was looking forward to it all year, and I just went there and restocked my wardrobe with t-shirts so wacky that I don't know where I'd have found them otherwise.
Make "silver fox" a gender-inclusive term of aesthetic admiration for older women and chic seniors of all genders!
NSFW. Asking for info & resources about some of the lesser-known options for bottom surgery for FTM & MTF spectra, so that I can create a sex ed infographic about them all. (OK to RT) Show more
I want to draw some sex ed infographics about bottom surgery options for trans folks on the FTM and MTF spectra that includes lesser-known surgical options that already exist in real life, like nullpatches, vagina-sparing metaiodoplasty, phallus-sparing vaginoplasty, and so on.
This isn't the sort of thing I normally draw (I'm a PG rated artist), and so I'm honestly not sure how comfortable I'll feel about completing this project, but I'm really concerned about how we trans-folk are all insufficiently informed about the full scope of our transition options. I haven't seen illustrations like this anywhere. I'll make the project public domain when it's done, so folks can translate it and put it in wikis and stuff. I'm figuring it could help make for happier trans folk in the future.
In order to draw that, I'll need a lot of the right kinds of resources. Would you folks please send me links-- with the links neatly labeled with type of surgery and CWs, so I've got a heads-up about what I'm getting into if I click-- that have descriptions and pictures about these other lower surgery options, which would be useful for making such diagrams?
PNW wildlife, food mention (+) Show more
Angry northern flying squirrel: *steadily eeping squeak-toy noise*
Angry eastern gray squirrel: *Ghostbusters hearse siren*
I'm currently hearing both of these going on at the same time. I think the neighbor's backyard has a disputed territory peanut.
Hmm... books that are three inches thick, peppered with Latin phrases, filled with bizarre tragic stories about people with ridiculous puns in their made-up names? Law school is pretty much Hogwarts.
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The Wizard of Oz is dustbowl goth.
What's the cheapest way to buy a whole lot of plain white printer paper these days?
actionable request re: sesame street anti-autism Show more
I saw @LexYeen mention the idea in replies and figured I'd float the request publicly: does anyone feel like they could write a phone or email script for people to use to contact PBS and/or HBO and/or the Sesame Street crew directly to speak out against this change? I think a lot of us are really angry and saddened at Sesame Street throwing their weight behind Autism Speaks, and scripts we can read and adapt and use would make it easier for us to contact them about how damaging this is.
I can boost replies to this message and fediverse posts people link in replies, and my instance has a high character limit if people want to DM me for my email and have me post their scripts.
sesame street, autism advocacy, anti-autism, medicalization (---) Show more
Sesame Street has given up working with ASAN to work with Autism Speaks instead. https://autisticadvocacy.org/2019/08/asan-has-ended-partnership-with-sesame-street/
Excerpt from the linked open letter:
For several years, ASAN consulted with Sesame Street on their See Amazing project and the development of their autistic character, Julia. Until this summer, the content Sesame Street produced showed parents that their autistic children could live great lives, and taught autistic and neurotypical children ways to become friends. Through this approach, See Amazing successfully encouraged the inclusion of autistic children in their communities, and had a widespread positive impact.
Sesame Street has now decided to undo that progress. Its latest PSAs featuring Julia promote Autism Speaks’ “Screen for Autism” initiative and their resource for parents of newly-diagnosed autistic children, the 100 Day Kit. Like much of Autism Speaks’ recent advertising, these PSAs use the language of acceptance and understanding to push resources that further stigma and treat autistic people as burdens on our families. The 100 Day Kit encourages parents to blame family difficulties on their autistic child (“When you find yourself arguing with your spouse… be careful not to get mad at each other when it really is the autism that has you so upset and angry”) and to view autism as a terrible disease from which their child can “get better.” It recommends compliance-based “therapies” and pseudoscientific “autism diets,” but fails to educate families about communication supports. It even instructs parents to go through the five stages of grief after learning that their child is autistic, as they would if the child had died.
For nonbinary people, struggle for recognition extends to romantic relationships
Many nonbinary people report having romantic partners who do not fully validate their gender identity.
Oh, and for that matter, what's the best ebook reader for iPad (for DRM-free books, loaded via Google Drive)?
In either case, I want to be able to do a lot of highlighting and annotating. I also want to be reasonably sure that I won't lose said annotations.
What's the nicest-looking ebook reader for on Windows desktop right now?
PSA about gender euphoria and dysphoria; educational mention of several kinds of genitals Show more
One reason why the concept of gender euphoria matters just as much as gender dysphoria is that to figure out your transition path, it helps to know not only what you're running from, but also to know what you're running toward, too.
Gender dysphoria means recognizing that you have a feeling such as "I don't like having a penis, it really upsets me." Feelings like that are an important starting point for many trans people.
Gender euphoria can include recognizing your feelings about, for example, "what I would really *like* to have *instead* of a penis, given that there are a few different options available for me to get." (Those options can include a vagina, or a vulva without a vagina, or a null-patch, or some other combination of characteristics. Those are all surgical options that exist in real life today.)
Not wanting a penis does not necessarily imply wanting a vagina. The same idea goes for all other characteristics that we associate with the binaries of sex and gender. Not wanting something that's popularly associated with one sex/gender doesn't necessarily imply wanting an equivalent that's popularly associated with another sex/gender. Moving away from one side of a binary doesn't mean you have to automatically conform to every aspect of the other side of the binary.
Transition is about figuring out what works best for you as an individual. That means recognizing what makes you feel bad as well as what makes you feel good. That's going to be as unique to you as your other likes and dislikes.
Some trans people feel way more aware of their gender dysphoria than their gender euphoria, or vice versa, maybe even to the point that they don't think they feel one of the two. That's okay, that's just individual variation, too. Everybody has a few of their own challenges about figuring out their transition paths that makes them feel like they're trying to read a map in the dark, or with no compass.
Best wishes to you for being able to find your way along your transition path, even if it's hard for you to figure out what you want or what you can do. I'd like to think that gender euphoria is something that all trans people can eventually find their way toward.