benign vicinity hinkypunks @CheshireEmber@dragon.style

Here is the annotation if you cannot listen to it https://genius.com/Porsha-olayiwola-angry-black-woman-annotated but I really love how she goes from "I'm super dainty" to "I'm pissed the fuck off" with a quickness.

Every couple of months, I think about Porsha O's poem "Angry Black Girl" and just how true it really is.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSoITsaSs0M

today i learned that macy gray is ND fam. definitely had a feeling, but here it is:

https://www.songfacts.com/facts/macy-gray/relating-to-a-psychopath

the lyrics to this song are funny as hell, and scathing. pure "yeah, that's me. and? you love me, so maybe grab a mirror".

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ipeEfIMQLo

neuroqueer praxis in action

so, yesterday, i put together a list of nazi instances i had blocked. that post has been boosted over 60 times. that's cool, i'm glad i did something useful.

but i can't do that kind of thing if i can't eat. my post about needing money for food has been boosted ten times.

if you appreciate and value the work i put into notifying everyone about where the fash are and you have some money to spare, please pay me.

if you can't give, please always boost.

paypal.me/lexiwisteria

You know how we have TERF and SWERF to refer to reactionary bigots in feminism? I think we should have something for reactionary bigots in gaming.

I suggest Kyriarchy-Advocating Gamers, or KAGs.

"Ignore the KAGs - the new Lego DLC in Forza Horizon 4 is a lot of fun."

"Honestly, any company with a pander-to-KAGs marketing strategy in 2019 deserves to go under."

"A big part of the reason why KAGs became the way they are is historical: they came of age during an era when videogames were being marketed as a tool for boys to prop up their masculinity and never learned to question it."

my original instance was witches.town, where the admin (a trans woman) then went on to attack nonbinary people and then had a meltdown and pulled the site. Which is a good example of why having a marginalized person as an admin doesn't guarantee they won't do harmful stuff.

It seems like one's options are to be on a server so small that it escapes notice, a server so bland and sufficiently-moderated that it never gets much notice, or always potentially open to these admin/co-op fuckups and having to hop elsewhere. Which is doable but also tiring. So do I stay here since it's one of the many broken places online but I can't really guarantee better? do I jump again? do I join something super small and/or bland and stop trying to be on instances with other anarchists, solarpunks, etc?

I dunno something feels extremely wrong about making jokes about 'loving censorship' as you slap an instance full of LGBTQ+ people with a whole entire suspension over 1 person who isn't even allowed to post anymore

Donate if you can:
https://www.gofundme.com/emergency-funds-for-transgender-woman-of-color

Since link preview doesn't work:

"To any and all members/allies of the Trans POC community, we need rapid financial assistance to support an ambitious black transgender woman who has been repeatedly, unexpectedly, and unfairly relieved of employment and hasn't a safe place to live."

...

"UPDATE: In addition to all that she's gone through, her current living situation has become hostile, unsafe, and traumatic. With no money, no job, and no home, she'll be homeless by the end of June."

YO! PSA time!
I'm a psychiatric nurse practitioner, means I prescribe and manage psych meds, I'm a trans poly queer that likes helping out the folks who have less of a share of the pie than the rest. You got some medical questions? You got some psych question specifically? Feel free to hit me up for some free-ass informal advice! Consider it a perk of being not a white cishet!

I called out a racist Politician in Maine for heading in secret, a white supremacy group. Something that he's never outwardly admitted to. I called him out, and he responded. I have screens and proof that he admitted to it, and also in response accused me of being a Marxist pedophile? I work for a "progressive" org in the state who have their own media team and reporters and yet, when I presented it to them, I got chewed out by the higher ups and need to go through a training, all they said was "Yeah he's a racist asshole, same old same old" and like of course that's their goddamn response. They're all white. They aren't going to do anything about it. Sick liberal mindset. I love being one of the only non-whites on staff and getting talked down to about calling out white supremacy. It's cool.

"We've moved beyond the idea that women wearing pants is a problem. Women wearing pants is powerful, it's strong, everybody accepts it, and it's associated with the patriarchy, it's associated with being male. The minute a man puts on a dress it's disgusting, so what are you saying? Men are strong, women are disgusting? I'm not doing that anymore. I'm done with that. I'm a man in a dress and if I feel like wearing a dress I'm gonna wear one." - Billy Porter

https://youtu.be/fY058WwzR7s

Before you jump into my mentions with "But I'm autistic and I can communicate just fine with my NT friends!", perhaps consider:

Autistic people aren’t really accepted – and it’s impacting their mental health

https://theconversation.com/autistic-people-arent-really-accepted-and-its-impacting-their-mental-health-86817

The costs of camouflaging autism

https://www.spectrumnews.org/features/deep-dive/costs-camouflaging-autism/

“Putting on My Best Normal”: Social Camouflaging in Adults with Autism Spectrum Conditions

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10803-017-3166-5

http://www.autscape.org/2013/programme/handouts/Double%20empathy%20problem.pdf

- The ‘subtext’ of a social situation is actively created by
people in context.

- The ‘theory of mind’ and ‘empathy’ utilised in normative
psychological models of human interaction, refers to the
ability an individual has to assume understandings of the
mental states and motives of other people.

- When such ‘empathy’ is applied toward an ‘autistic person’ however, it is often wildly inaccurate in its measure.

- Such attempts are often felt as invasive, imposing and
threatening by an ‘autistic person’, especially when
protestations to the contrary are ignored by the person doing the ‘empathising’.

so often i feel like callout culture is more interested in targeting and eliminating than teaching and growing

Here is a nice photo of the sky.

Hey comrades, I'm a poor Latinx lesbian asking for $350 for rent. My several small jobs have dipped down for summer and I'm scrambling to look for more work

I'm the most scared in a year I won't have enough to cover me and my gf

It's also the anniversary of Pulse. Donate to brown queer fam. Please boost. Share with friends who may have the means to help us #mutualaid #donate

Paypal: paypal.me/hamsterpower91
Venmo: amelia_leviosa
Cash App: $hamsterpower

Have a happy #enby #nonbinary #bisexual #GenderGalaxie #EuroPride!

First time non-binary peeps are officially marching in the #pride

oh my literal god

you can sign up for UPS My Choice on their website and as long as you know a person's name and address (how it appears on their packages), they will show you a full schedule of all the packages delivered to that address AND LET YOU SIGN UP FOR NOTIFICATIONS ABOUT FUTURE PACKAGES. zero verification required

UPS is such a fucking mess, but this is pretty far beyond

I see the racist, misogynist "we just want to point out how easy it is to spam on Mastodon" concern trolls are back in action. (If they link to a site called "women are stupid", that's them.)

Remember: don't engage them. Report them, pass the report through to the remote instance if need be, block them, and move on.