@gendercensus For me, the essence of "queer" is that someone who wants to know who I am in the world of gender and sexuality - "and" or "or", but it's "and" in my case - might be in for a longer conversation than they are prepared for: that to answer that question is going to require me to attack the philosophical assumptions of what gender and sexuality /are/, and sometimes I'd be happier leaving it at "it's complicated" than trying to teach that seminar just to come out to a person.
Like, it's an umbrella? But it also has that meaning of complexity.
And, like, I wouldn't have written it in, but if it's on the checklist, then yes - my gender is that complicated, it is a queer gender. Genderqueer and nonbinary are umbrellas, too. All three cover me.
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