Heads-up: this is a private, personal account. I ask that people @ me before follow-requesting so I find out if I'm comfortable being open in my locked posts in front of them. Please look over my profile and pinned toots and tell me:
- Where you found my account from,
- Who you are, and
- Why you are interested in following.
You need to understand what lets me feel safe and tell me enough about you that I do, but your toot doesn't have to be elaborate as long as it /does/ tell me; "someone boosted one of your toots and your account looks cool - I'm an autistic trans furry too, can I follow" would still likely show enough.
(If you are seeing this pinned toot because I copy+pasted the above into your DMs, thank you - I appreciate your going to this effort.)
Packbat = a social justice trans gxrl looking for thoughtful musings and pretty art, sharing other people's stuff, and being mentally ill on main (446 words under the cut) Show more
- By 'hikikomori' I mean that I was expected to achieve academic and professional greatness but dropped out of school to live in a house owned by my parents with no job and little in-person interactions with others. If I am missing important subtleties of the definition, I apologize.
- I tend to follow people on social media platforms based on whether I want to subscribe to the feed they are authoring and/or curating, so I neither expect nor make a rule of follow-backs.
- Follows are locked because ... okay, they were *originally* locked because followbots are creepy, but *now* they're locked because I show a lot of vulnerability in locked posts and I want to have some amount of comfort with people I let see them.
- (So far, the people who discover my presence here and care to see what I post seem to be mostly all right.)
- I'm not *fond* of discourse, but frankly, sometimes an opinion being contentious makes it *more* important to pick a side. I try to voice and share thoughtful takes.
- (Also, I have no patience for people who tell me that asexual and aromantic folks aren't queer. That one, I tend to be less "thoughtful" and more "emphatic in my rejection of something which directly harms me")
- My mom did a lot of emotional guilt-tripping. A lot of underhanded-but-widely-accepted-by-society manipulative tactics trigger major anxiety in me, but also just ... people adding emphasis to their recommendations by phrasing them as obligations (e.g. "you have to play this game!"). 'Preciate it if you didn't, especially at me.
- I don't talk a lot about being an atheist - I have Opinions about people who try to impose their theology on others - but I am fairly emphatically one. Mostly turns up in "as a metaphysical naturalist, this is why I disagree with such-and-such societal prejudice that gets passed off as 'scientific'" contexts, but I do sometimes make CWed post rambling or ranting about things.
- As of now, I play a lot of correspondence chess on Gameknot - https://gameknot.com/#packbat - for reasons that are still kind of obscure to me.
- Tabletop RPGs! <3 <3 <3 I play a lot, but haven't GMed much as of yet. My first system was SLUG - https://www.panix.com/~sos/rpg/slug.html - but most of my experience is with D&D.
- No longer unsure of whether I'm furry. 😸 Currently going back and forth between a dragon sona I haven't drawn or had drawn yet and the bat-eared fox sona that @aflightybroad volunteered to draw for me:
on what it means when someone lets you know that you messed up (quote, transphobia mention) Show more
"I guess the moral of the story, or the one I hope some readers take away, is that when YOU are the person doing it — calling the wrong pronoun, saying the ignorant thing, etc. — your behavior is both unacceptable and deeply familiar. And when a trans person takes time to call you out, to explain it to you, to show vulnerability or anger, it comes at a personal risk and a personal cost. It is your job to make that worthwhile."
- Lewis Wallace, "A week or two of being trans at work" https://medium.com/@lewispants/a-week-or-two-of-being-trans-at-work-ddb46134bf38
(Generalize to other marginalized groups.)
As with most philosophies, this can’t really be proven or disproven; there’s no sense trying to argue someone out of the opinion that Phil is an asshole for not acting the way famous people are supposed to act – or, crucially, for not acting the way *we* would act in his place. This is a popular argument because it’s an argument you can’t lose – no one can empirically prove whether Phil is or isn’t an asshole. What gets elided in this argument is the assumption that famous assholes – people who don’t act the way famous people are *supposed* to act – deserve to be *punished*.
- "This Is Phil Fish", Innuendo Studios, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PmTUW-owa2w
(Content warnings on the full video for discussion of harassment, insults framed in terms of sexual assault, and bigotry.)
on promising your account is safe for a marginalized group (364 words) Show more
...the more I understand about how many complicated ways people can be vulnerable and how diverse all our marginalized groups can be, the harder it feels to promise safety. I'm trans and nonbinary, but I'm also indubitably transfeminine - so how do I promise safety to transmasculine people when I don't really know what they need?
Heck, I can't even promise safety to my future self - there is so much I don't know, and so much that I've learned that I haven't noticed the poison in, that I'm sure to err in ways I cannot even imagine until later. *I'm ace* and I reblogged acephobic crap on Tumblr for a while - and while I've deleted those reblogs and unfollowed the person who posted them, how many other things have I screwed up unwittingly?
I'm trying to be safe for nonbinary people, for trans people, for queer people, for lesbians and other gay people, for bi people, for polyamorous people, for polysexual people, for ace people and aro people and people who are both, for autistic people, for trauma survivors, for disabled people, for PoC, for sex workers ... I'm trying, and I'm getting better at it, but I can't just say that I'm safe. That's a promise larger than I can make, larger than I feel comfortable asking anyone to make.
I can try to be safe, I can (hopefully, barring overwhelm from torrents of trolls) listen to critique when I err, and I'm getting pretty good at noticing the difference between "this is a member of a marginalized group asking for consideration and respect" and "this is an advocate for a harmful ideology co-opting a language of social justice for the purpose".
I can't promise to be safe, but I can promise to avoid most of the big mistakes, to acknowledge the mistakes I do make when informed of them, and to forever seek to do better by people.
...and maybe that's what people mean when they share those "my account is safe for" posts. But this is what I mean when I don't.
Gonna go ahead and sign off for the night - peace, fediversaries
media boycott, police brutality, hong kong politics Show more
Re: LB - https://kitty.town/@tessaracht/102635062630330229 linking to https://boingboing.net/2019/08/17/crystal-liu.html - Crystal Liu, the actor cast as Mulan in the upcoming movie, specifically spoke out in support of the /Hong Kong/ police. If you haven't been following these protests, the Wikipedia article is https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2019_Hong_Kong_anti-extradition_bill_protests and specifically notes the excessive force used by the police, including tear-gassing crowds of peaceful protestors on multiple occasions, over and over, including in residential areas.
Further, the police have been trying to retaliate against perceived leaders of the protests. The New York Times reported on July 26 police officers trying to unlock a protestor's phone by force using its facial recognition login feature - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/26/technology/hong-kong-protests-facial-recognition-surveillance.html - and further reports the way police officers started removing their identification badges to make it more difficult for the protestors to report misconduct.
The protestors in Hong Kong began with trying to prevent a bill being pushed by China that would allow China to force the extradition of Hong Kong citizens protesting against the Chinese government, but as China, pro-Beijing politicians in Hong Kong, Hong Kong police, and even pro-Beijing members of organized crime in the city have escalated their rejection of and violence against the protestors, the protests have grown.
/That/ is the context in which Crystal Liu is speaking out in favor of the police. Violent repression of peaceful protests. Any specific incidents pro-police voices cite are just pretexts.
police brutality, media boycot, disney Show more
so, it looks like the "star" of the new live action Mulan is a big fan of police brutality. so maybe don't go see that movie or support disney.
Talk: how the crew of United Airlines 232 (1989) were able to keep 185 people alive after a complete hydraulic failure.
Also, has probably the funniest line of recorded ATC communications that I've ever heard.
"How to crash an airplane – Nickolas Means" [43:12]
Fundraising for my classroom Show more
If you want to feel super significant without giving a lot, we're only $13 from being funded.
asking for $ help, boosts+ Show more
my paycheck and rent and food and hrt situation is, to put it mildly, wack
my health insurance doesn't start for another couple weeks, and the only hrt appointment was for the 26th, so it's gonna cost me $300 that I'm struggling to come up with. any help would be extremely appreciated 💜
Link to a friend's GoFundMe, boosts + Show more
Posting for a friend
Help a trans lady out if you can
actually i do have one detail and that is that the CFL backlight inverter blew (this picture is after i replaced said inverter, seen on the right)
and i'm super worried that the discharge might've busted something irreplaceable but i can't trace any visible damage anywhere else
if you know where i can get a replacement lcd cable harness for this specific model that would be appreciated too
i've tried wiggling the lcd cable, cleaning contacts in every way possible, and nothing. really would like this to work again. i don't think the panel is bad, it likely is just the cable, but i can't easily test all points for continuity
how would you even begin to troubleshoot this?
model is a toshiba satellite pro 420CDT
i know the issue is the between the video card and the lcd but no idea how it started. i know the video card is ok because vga out is fine
Head's up, Value Village has their 99 cent t-shirt sale today (though I'm not sure if the sale is held on the same date at all locations?). They save their best shirts to put out for this sale, too. I was looking forward to it all year, and I just went there and restocked my wardrobe with t-shirts so wacky that I don't know where I'd have found them otherwise.
409 responses so far. :) It's only open for a week, so all signal boosts are welcome to get it out of the nonbinary bubble!
Hello! I’m doing another casual survey, this time about identity journeys.
All trans and/or nonbinary people are invited to take part! If you’re not cis, please do take a look.