@kiilas I kind of think "how do you know if you're (gender/lack of gender)" is a misleading question itself, because it suggests there's some hidden gender (or lack of) in you that you're not fully aware of, but have to find and prove in some satisfactory way to the part of you that deals with the outside world.
When really, if you feel like gender doesn't apply or make sense to you, and nonbinary (or any other word) works to describe that for you, I think that's all you really need to say "I'm nonbinary". Words and concepts are tools for us, not the other way around.
@kiilas I think it's also fine to say "I don't understand the question; the question feels irrelevant to me". Maybe at some future point the question will feel relevant; maybe it won't-- but right now it feels like it's not part of your experience, and that's all you need.
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