@klara This was really worth reading, thank you!
Over on birdsite, FioraAeterna posted this list (as screencaps) for World Mental Health Day 2019, and I made this text version because it was relatively easy for me to do so and it seemed like a helpful accessibility addition: https://pastebin.com/7aegBtNq
A lot of these are tricks I already knew, but not all of them! And just in general I found it to be a really well written, concise list. (In a better world this stuff would all be common knowledge for adults, but I get that it isn't yet.)
In the spirit of "say the thing you always wanted others to say to you":
Otherkin, you don't have to like being human.
You don't have to enjoy having a human body.
If you can't participate in body positivity past a certain point because your body is fundamentally Wrong and there's no surgery or hormones that could ever fix you, it's okay.
(If you can, that's also okay and it doesn't make you less valid! I just really needed this message to be out there.)
@anthracite Wait, we didn't get that one.... Is that real? o:
fictional murder, silly (continued)
@mysidia no, he's asking if she's "woke, eh?"
@mysidia nara, in the food bowl: no take pic!! i practisin my T H I CC
each time a new technology evolves, i wonder about this sort of thing.
i think technology's advancing more quickly than we can be snobbish about it, these days. people just sort of standing there and gaping as these strange new realities emerge and collapse around us
setting up windows 10 for the 6 billionth time; microsoft gothic only it's real
the sheer fact of how many screens i have to click past to avoid their New(tm) Enhanced© PrivacyExploit malware is horrific
the setup makes it sounds like i can only use the machine if i make an online account (which on the first screen is just called a "Microsoft account"-- classic dodgy advertising tactic, not letting you know entirely what you're in for until you're halfway committed). even i, as an experienced pc user, was almost fooled. but i looked around the screen, and there, in small text at the bottom, was the option "offline account".
i click it and i get a big splash screen. YOU CAN DO MORE THINGS WITH AN ONLINE ACCOUNT. i continue to click "offline account". it finally relents, but throws up a very prominent "OR USE YOUR ONLINE ACCOUNT" button.
i have to turn off cortana twice during the setup process.
then i'm confronted with privacy settings, which is basically a big screen full of checkboxes that default to privacy violations, have to be manually ticked off, and display yellow "warning" text when you do.
i haven't felt this emotionally exploited since the neopets pound. the entire setup is designed to make you empathise with and welcome microsoft's robot spy into your home, while making you feel like your system is threatened for making basic privacy decisions
Recommended method for bonding with your bearded dragon, from your local hippie beardless dragon (cw weed):
Right around lights out time, get high af, burrito them up in a blanky (right now I'm using a washcloth, his blankies are in the mail) and hold them against your chest while listening to soothing music.
He fell asleep right on me while we listened to an ocean sounds vid on youtube.
(May also work with cats, but they probably won't like the purrito. Just curl up with them instead.)
From belowmentioned survey (cw: long, species dysphoria)
"If desired, provide reasoning for why your gender is or isn't related to your alterhuman identity. Be as brief or as lengthy as you wish."
I strongly feel that my discomfort with "gender" is due to having to fit into either a male or a female social, and sexual, role. I found the female role especially constraining due to the extra demands imposed upon female-presenting people, but I realised I equally don't wish to present as a male, or at least a male human. There is no human gender role that fits me and thus my feelings of gender dysphoria, of never being able to slot into a comfortable gender role because society and the way I look won't allow it, are directly born from species dysphoria.
"If desired, provide reasoning for why they are or aren't similar to each other. Be as brief or as lengthy as you wish."
Both involve feelings of being shaped wrong-- of being perceived wrongly by other people-- of being "in the wrong body", in my case. Many people argue that "trapped in the wrong body" is an inaccurate descriptor for them, but I feel it's right for me-- I can never adjust this body to be anything close to the body I desire.
survey about otherkin (ok to RT)
One more thing: if you yourself identify as #otherkin, #alterhuman, #fictionkin, #therianthrope, or #nonhuman, then you can take Emmet's survey about how that identity interacts with your gender, whether you're trans or not. The survey's open til July 1, 2019: https://theriotypical.tumblr.com/post/183997409184/alterhumanity-gender-a-survey
mental health (+, recovering), hell
I need to masto more. Last year was not incomparable to hell-- I'd legitimately wonder sometimes if I was actually in it-- and I've become averse to places and things, even if harmless, that I was connected to during that time. But this place is full of such lovely people. ❤️
Glitchy bleppy fuzzy snow monster.
He/they/it are all fine.
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