I just remember telling people that I wasn't going to attend events that $NAME went to anymore. Like, nah. Skip me with that shit. If they're going to be there, I don't want to be.
At first everyone was like, "GASP", but over time it became, "...well if it's them or her I'd rather have her..." and slowly the nasty person stopped being invited at all, group hangouts were a lot more pleasant, and everyone admitted, later, just how much of a jerk $NAME was to them, too.
this sounds like an obvious thing, but when you grow up in a dysfunctional household (or maybe even not then! maybe if you're just Nice!), you assume that because they're a jerk to you, they must be NICE to everyone else, so it's perhaps a You problem, and you should just shrug and ignore their jibes or whatever.
but it's rarely a You problem, it's usually a Them problem, and, well, yeah.
one of the best things about no longer giving a fuck has to be the bit where I no longer feel the need to keep around people who are jerks to me just because everyone else likes them.
just...thinking about that tonight, how much more pleasant social stuff got once I stopped inviting the people who were jerks.
Forget about Bitcoin mining; looks like the reactive schemes to colonial plundering are gonna be about the BITPHONE mining:
¨In the U.S., around 151 million phones end up in landfills or incinerators every year, which amounts to 416,000 a day, WEEE Forum said. Overall, only 17.4 percent of electronic waste is properly recycled worldwide.
This is a major waste both financially and ecologically.
"A tonne of discarded mobile phones is richer in gold than a tonne of gold ore," Dr. Ruediger Kuehr, director of the UN's Sustainable Cycles (SCYCLE) Programme, said in a statement. "Embedded in 1 million cell phones, for example, are 24 kg of gold, 16,000 kg of copper, 350 kg of silver, and 14 kg of palladium — resources that could be recovered and returned to the production cycle. And if we fail to recycle these materials, new supplies need to be mined, harming the environment."
Recovering these metals from electronic waste would also burn fewer greenhouse gas emissions than mining for new materials.
In honor of International E-Waste Day, the WEEE Forum is calling on individuals to do their part by making sure they dispose of their waste correctly. ¨
#OtD 15 Oct 1966 in Oakland, CA, the Black Panther Party for Self Defence was set up. The Party would exist, despite heavy repression, until 1982 and did things like gave breakfasts to children and ran community health clinics. Learn more: https://shop.workingclasshistory.com/collections/books/black-panthers
worry about things outside of my control | the ways that traumatized people abandon support systems out of fear
The nomadic members of my collective have scattered to the winds. The collective, formerly a close polycule of around 8 people, has mostly separated except for me and the closest members of my collective, who have all anchored to my city.
I've mostly lost contact with the nomadic members of my collective. I've only talked with 2 of them, out of around 5 nomads, in the past year, and from what I've heard, the 2 nomads I'm in contact with have themselves lost contact with the other 3. They've just dropped off the face of the earth. No way to reach them.
For the 3 that are no longer in contact, it's not particularly out of character for them to decide to leave their lives behind, but also I'm a bit worried about the possibility that worse things have happened to them than being unable to maintain a phone.
They all passed through Slab City at some point, and one of them told me about how a queer person in slab city was killed.
They've separated from each other, and the life of a nomad is a hard one, even harder when you leave behind the people who would otherwise look out for you.
I've been thinking a lot about generational trauma and neuroses. The United States is a country of settlers trying to make a life in the shadow of genocide, and surviving through toxic and dysfunctional relationship habits.
Building a better future means looking inside and getting rid of the toxic generational garbage holding you back. And that means communicating openly and honestly, and allowing yourself to become a part of a healthy interdependent community of like-minded people. We can't get through this alone. We need other people to help us get by.
I know so many people whose primary coping mechanism is escape. Run away from all the things that they're afraid of, and at the same time, run away from anyone who might be able to support them.
@heatherhorns yeah a friend of mine remarked that general purpose computing was solved 20 years ago and the tech industry has been trying to break everything up into silo'd services ever since and i've been thinking about that for two weeks now
Mail (the email client for Windows 10), has a loading bar for pasting text.
Someone saw that pasting text takes a long time, and instead of thinking 'OMG, we pasted text in the 80's without a problem', they decided to write a loading animation in, so that people would understand the paste is coming.
This is beyond parody.
re: people watching //
keep an eye out for people judging or thinking from ("as subject?")
* personal experience
* social norms
* theories of people
* theories of relationships
* theories of societies
and judging or thinking about (as object)
* the acts that were done
* the results of those acts
* the people doing those acts
* the kinds of actions done, generally
* the people, as independent entities
* the relationships between the people
* a community / industry / country
* the article itself
* social media (or traditional media)
* each other
* their own actions
* their own reactions
* their own interpretation of <x>
* "altruism" "narcissism" "cringe" "plagiarism"
* anything on list 1, but as an object
"mobbing", RT @email@example.com
> In sum: mobbing is a process through which someone is falsely construed as a threat to the group that demands action—demands some kind of elimination. It mimics community mobilization against actual bad actors, but there’s no concrete serious offense, or, usually, even a clear and *specific* serious accusation. Often, numbers of supposed victims or incidents are substituted for any kind of specifics.
> The key to avoiding mobbing is insisting on getting clear on the supposed offense, especially before participating. Mobbing-resistant communities are ones that recognize this as appropriate, and in fact an important part of anti-abusive and anti-oppressive practice.
> I’m not talking about being like “I don’t believe that this person did this specific thing to you,” I’m talking about being like “what was the ‘harm’ or ‘abuse’ or ‘bullying’, what is the actual action under the label”
Here lies something that might have been a pigeon in an alternate dimension.
The social network of the future: No ads, no corporate surveillance, ethical design, and decentralization! Own your data with Mastodon!